In this episode Ryan and I follow Brandon’s suggestions, and try to ask each other the most provocative questions we can think of, questions so intense that they make even the listener feel uncomfortable (you).  We used this as an opportunity to ask questions that we had been thinking about for years, but never had the courage to ask before including: why I chose to see psychologists twice (at 18 and 21), if Ryan understood why I stopped spending time with him when he thought I was a shut-in, why Ryan dates girls that all of his friends hooked-up with (before him), our biggest relationship insecurities, our sexual insecurities, the sexual desires we are trying to explore (but are too afraid to ask about), and the difference between being an asshole and standing up for yourself.  We share a few crazy stories: Ryan’s first kiss, how I made out with >50 girls before my first day of high school, and specifically how I ended my most recent relationship and friendship.

Selected Links for the Interview:

"If making out with girls is a crime I should be executed", and this picture shows why ;). Edited by my cousin Mike Mason

“If making out with girls is a crime I should be executed” ;). (Photo Edited by  Mike Mason)

"If I found a girl who wanted to make out with me, I thought that was something I should hold on to" - Ryan, in the middle, holding on to as many girls as possible

“If I found a girl who wanted to make out with me, I thought that was something I should hold on to” – Ryan, in the middle, holding on to as many girls as possible

My practice putting out small pieces of content daily:

Rolled away from my first one footed noseslides yesterday. #newtrickeveryday

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People tell the truth through their actions. If you find yourself explaining something too often, or repeatedly promising and "telling" instead of "showing" you are probably being dishonest, even if you don't realize it at the time. Once you recognize this you can study others solely from their actions, and ignore most of their words to understand who they truly are. More importantly, you can turn the mirror on yourself and see what the actions you take on a regular basis say about who you are and what's important to you, and how this compares to who you think you are and what you think you care about. While I've been seeking to live my truth for a while, I've recently realized that it's impossible to live anything other than your truth. I should instead examine my actions so that I can be objective about what my truth is, and use that information to influence my future actions if I want to change my truth to be more aligned with my ideals. Just as the truth is only malleable through tangible action (e.g. You can only create or change something by actually doing something), your truth can only be altered by your actions. Understand where you are, live like the person you think you want to be, and repeat often. Advice for myself. ~~~~~~~ 3 men of action in action #me @tcams_vb @aklusterfuk

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I try my hardest to learn a new trick everyday, but until recently I never really talked much about it. Skateboarding drives me crazy for the same reasons I love it: it isn't linearized, it isn't straightforward, there aren't check marked lists or objectives, and there isn't a clear path of how to become a better skateboarder, or what it even means to be a "good skateboarder". Some days you learn new tricks, and on others you forget old tricks. There are so many things I "used to be able to do" but can't anymore, and that's why I can never really tell if I'm improving as a skater. Part of this is living in my own head, and understanding how quickly the mind normalizes satisfaction and happiness. 2 years ago I would feel like I had a good session if I landed a single kickflip, and now I regularly defend kickflips in games of S.K.A.T.E. and end up thinking about how disgusting my kickflips look. I actually feel like a BAD skater when I land them because I don't like the way they look or feel anymore. I'm not one to rely heavily on external validation, which is one way of getting a more objective opinion on your progress, so I built two systems into my skateboarding practice that I've been consistent with, and have noticed a substantial acceleration in my learning process since implementing. 1. Learn a new trick, that I've never landed before, every single day 2. Film a trick everyday (ideally the new trick) and post it somewhere public where I can scroll back and see my skills develop as I continue to practice and experiment. New tricks look ugly and awkward, but they feel the best and make me the happiest to land. So while I might look "cooler" or "better" posting perfectly clean skateboard tricks everyday, I'm more interested in 1. The progression and 2. The authentic emotions behind the tricks. I'd much rather be happy than cool. Here's my daily skateboard practice in action. #nollie and #fakie #halfcab line inspired by @prod84 @bobbydekeyzer. It doesn't look pretty, but look at the expression on my face when I roll away. That's exactly the type of skateboarding I'm chasing, and what I want to capture on film. |📹 @tedfilmsskate

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