Paleomodern Polymaths 29: Jackson Klein, Grit, Becoming a Finisher, Graduate School, How to Develop Good Sleep Hygeine

Jackson and I discuss: our different career paths after college (leaving the fields we were trained in), how to develop grit (and it’s importance), our alternative energy solutions as well as our experiences working in alternative energy research, how Jackson developed and maintained a healthy sleep routine while balancing a part time job, marching band, and one of the most demanding majors in college, how to approach making friends and establishing yourself socially in a new city, and how to follow through and finish difficult or discouraging goals.

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  • “I got pretty good at fining fun in what I was doing” –Jackson Klein
  • “First and foremost you need to focus on yourself if you’re going to do anything for the world.” –Jackson Klein

Paleomodern Polymaths 28: Rich Davis, One of the Most Successful Animals on the Planet, Ambition, Perception/Reality

On this episode I talk with Rich Davis, man of the lord, about billionaires, emotional state transference, Rich’s ambition and life goals, our obsessive drives for self improvement, how perception becomes reality, competing with yourself and others, and why we strive so agressively to improve.

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"The best way to be the best is to only compete with yourself"

  • “That’s how we evolved and became one of the most successful animals on the planet, was being able to take care of ourselves.” -Rich Davis
  • “It’s always very active thought work, there’s continuously new things to find, and I’m addicted to that” -Rich Davis
  • “If I could summarize finance it’s that: a dollar today is worth more than a dollar tomorrow” – Rich Davis
  • “I don’t want to just be good at things, I want to be the best, at everything.” – Rich Davis
  • “People are so focused on becoming better than other people… I want to be beyond comparison when it comes to how good I am at something.” – Rich Davis
  • “The best way to be the best is to only compete with yourself.”- Rich Davis
  • “Nothing in this world can mimic the inherent drive you have for something.” – Rich Davis

Paleomodern Polymaths 27: William Addington, Loneliness, Identifying with your Orientation, How to Ghost, Combining Ambition with Patience

On this episode William and I discuss: why do people say I am gay and how your sexual orientation can become a defining characteristic of your identity (if you let it), how to ghost, including how we ended some recent relationships, our struggles with loneliness and abandonment, how you can turn your passion into something you support yourself with, combining ambition with patience, living with your parents in your late 20s, and the advice we wish we would have gotten in our depressive periods.

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  • “I’m told by my managers I used to work for that you can’t be what you were here, they reminded me… I tend to reign it in until I figure out the lay of the land, and straight people I think generally don’t have to do that on the same level” -William Addington
  • “I have never been included in a regular circle of friends I feel like… I was always sort of the odd man out that they would include for one event but never again, and I’ve never had a real best of friends…” -William Addington

Paleomodern Polymaths 26: Chanel Van Eeden, False Cancer Diagnosis, Overcoming Depression, Fear of Being Unlovable

On this episode, Chanel and I talk about: how her experience of being misdiagnosed with thyroid cancer changed her perspective and personality, the story of one of her depressive episodes, including how it started and how it ended, the root causes of our compulsive and excessive behaviors, and how to overcome the pressure to be nonchalant and instead show the people in your life that you care about them. The podcast isn’t exclusively focused on heavy topics, and there’s more laughter and lightheartedness in this episode than any before. Some of the lighter topics include: Chanel’s theory about fuccbois, under what circumstances does ordering pizza become a sign that you need an intervention, and how to act like a sociopath to make people fall in love with you. Chanel is hilarious, smart, and kind, and I’m very grateful that I have the opportunity to share this conversation with you.

Chapters:

  • Intro [0:00]
  • Who is Chanel Van Eeden? [6:30]
  • Chanel’s proposed reorganization of social media/Why I think comfort is dangerous [8:30]
  • My artistic process [24:00]
  • Chanel’s experience with depression pt.1 (how it started) [43:40]
  • How Chanel finds the courage to be earnest in our ironic, non-intimate, “cool” world. How to overcome the impulse to be see as cool and shamelessly perform vulnerable acts of kindness, and stories of when it’s backfired for us [47:50]
  • What sorts of excessive or compulsive behaviors do we currently struggle with? My biggest emotional issue: a fear that I’m unloveable [1:22:00]
  • How to be less intimidating in a relationship. Stories of intimidation holding us back in relationships [2:00:00]
  • Chanel’s experience with depression pt.2 (thyroid cancer, dropping out, overcoming depression) [2:14:30]
  • Do I obsess over doing things to repress a certain emotion? [2:45:35]
  • Chanel asks, “when did you realize that your parents were human and what was that like?” [3:14:00]
  • If Chanel could learn anything, what would she choose to learn? (incredible answer) [3:19:00]
  • We ask each other, “what is something that I do, that I’m good at, that I should keep doing?” [3:20:30]

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Selected Quotes from the Episode:

  • “It takes time to do stuff with your life and to get to a better place. If you’re throwing time away, you’re in trouble.”

  • “There’s this facade that people put on where they don’t care about anything at all” -Chanel

  • “If I can’t let you know that I care about you, if you get weird about that, then maybe I should care about you less.”

  • “I think the drive for [lack of intimacy] is ‘how can I not address the issues in my life’ by working out a lot, or sleeping with a lot of girls to numb myself.” -Chanel

  • “Why would I want to turn someone into a band-aid and then throw them away at the end?”

  • “Any excessive behavior is because you are not addressing issues that you have” -Chanel

  • “I would hate myself, then I would do something I regretted, and then I would feel bad about it, and then I would shame myself about it.”

  • “I felt the flippant nature of what life was, and it could end really soon for me, or I could get into a really crappy situation where I was gonna have to deal with medical things everyday and I was not going to be able to do anything, so I was going to do as many things as I can now and have fun and not worry about what my morality might say about it, or what my conscious is saying. I served myself… only in that time frame.” -Chanel

  • “It’s really arrogant to think I understand this person’s life and I know how to live it better than them”

Paleomodern Polymaths 25: Zoë Mattioli, How to Travel the World at 23, Meditation, Self-Experimentation

On this episode Zoë and I talk about: how to overcome the obstacles preventing you from going on your dream trip now (without needing to borrow money or get a crazy job), how to look inward, how to ground yourself in uncomfortable situations, how to cope with feeling like you don’t have a best friend, creating groups for growth and change, and what her hopes and dreams are for the future.

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Paleomodern Polymaths 24: Danielle Dallas Roosa, Creating a Show, Social Media Anxiety, Finding Your Authentic Self

On this episode I talk with Danielle Dallas Roosa about: the GoFundMe campaign for her new show Missing the Mark and what led her to make it now, how you can be more of your authentic self, and how social media has turned much of our lives into a performance. Hopefully Danielle’s story will motivate you to recognize your power and to start building your dreams today!

Chapters:

  • Intro
  • What is Missing the Mark/what led you to make it?
  • What does Danielle struggle with now?
  • What potentially misguided actions has Danielle taken to project a public image?/How did she bounce back from it
  • Danielle’s recommendations for people who are getting caught up trying to please others instead of being their authentic selves* (my favorite segment)
  • Why is it important that Danielle make her own show now
  • Danielle’s Thesis: Life as a Performance
  • How to relieve yourself from social(/social media) anxiety
  • The importance of being in a creative environment
  • What advice would Danielle give herself the day she graduated college?/Closing advice

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  • “If you’re feeling lost, and you feel like this isn’t me, then what is you?…. Whatever that is, just start doing it.”-Danielle Dallas Roosa